For the first 34 years of my life I was a pretty unhappy person. I didn’t realize it at the time because I just thought this is who I was. Don’t get me wrong, I had a lot of happiness throughout my life but I would always default back to the negative. That’s just the way my mind wants to work. It wants me to focus on the negative.
Throughout my life I have had times where I have had nothing and also times where I have had everything (or at least what I had thought was everything). It didn’t matter. Stuff doesn’t matter. It’s all about what’s inside.
Today, at age 37, I am a happy and content person (most of the time). So what changed? Did I win the lottery? Did I become a monk? Nope. I just became willing to change and every day I make a conscious decision to seek happiness and serenity in my life. I want to become a better person each day. I want to be happier. The happier I am, the more useful I am to myself and everyone around me. The more I can (and actually want to) help other people.
I’m far from perfect at any of this. Most of these things were learned by doing the opposite or by going through a lot of pain. I still go through times when I revert back to being negative and thus become unhappy. But I keep trying and work to become just a little bit better each day. Do you want to be happier? Do you want more serenity (peace in between your ears)? Here are some of these things that have worked for me. (For a printable copy, click here)
Really listen when people talk to you. Don’t just wait for them to finish their sentence so you can talk.
Do something nice for someone each day. Do it without looking for credit.
Write a gratitude list everyday. Even if it’s just one item long.
Stretch. Even if it’s just for 2 minutes.
Meditate. Giving your mind a break and allowing some stillness in your life is so important.
Get rid of your ego. Your ego hates you and wants to keep you apart from other people. Don’t let it.
Read something positive each day. It doesn’t matter if it’s just a paragraph long.
Don’t waste time reading negative stuff.
Spend quality time with your family each day.
Take a walk.
Call or meet with at least one close friend each day.
Floss. I have found that if I can’t commit to something as simple but important as flossing, it usually means that I am letting other areas of my life lag as well.
Accept things as they are. Strive for more but be content with less.
Read a book/blog/article on a subject that you know nothing.
Keep a daily journal and commit to writing in it each day. Even if you just write “Today was good. I don’t know what else to write.”
Be passionate about everything you do. If you’re doing something everyday that you’re not passionate about, try to figure out how to cut it out of your life.
Eat real food.
Give back. Nothing brings more fulfillment to me than the feeling of helping someone else.
Have a plan for each day. Get the most out of the hours you are going to work so that you can get the most out of the hours outside of work.
Surround yourself with positive people.
Wake up early. It’s amazing how much more alive you feel when you get up early and start getting things done.
Don’t work so much.
Don’t think that working so much is something you should be proud of or brag about. No one on their death bed ever thought “I wish I spent more time on that PowerPoint…”
Laugh. A lot.
Offer to help someone each day. Don’t have an ulterior motive.
Stop caring so much about what other people think.
Stop worrying so much. Most of the terrible things that we think are going to happen, never do.
Don’t think that it’s too late. It’s never too late.
Stop thinking that you are too old to do something. You’re not.
Stop thinking you are too young to do something. You’re not.
Remember that your mind can be a dangerous place so don’t go there alone. Talk to someone each day about how you are feeling.
Realize that fear is natural but don’t let it consume you. Recognize your fears. Write them down, it removes a lot of the power that we give them.
Expectations are resentments in the making. Don’t put unrealistic expectations on other people.
Don’t be afraid to say you don’t know something. Be okay with asking questions. Stop thinking you have to know everything.
If you have a dog, take it for a walk each day. If you have a cat, pet it for a few minutes each day. If you don’t have either, stop one in the street. If you’re allergic, watch some videos of them on the Internet.
Try not to use buzz-words unnecessarily. Is that new product really a “game-changer”?
Compliment someone each day. Even if it’s a stranger.
Hold the door for the person behind you.
Always thank the person who holds the door for you.
Be positive even when you don’t feel like being positive.
Try to stay as consistent as possible. Don’t be nice to the people you work with and then come home and treat your kids like shit.
Be there for the little things in your kid’s lives. It’s easy to be there for the big things (first days of school, dance recitals, etc) but it’s the little things that really matter. Those are the ones that I am so happy not to miss.
Don’t put people down to make yourself feel better. It doesn’t work and it makes people respect you less.
Be on time. If you can, be early.
Be a person of your word.
Stop checking email/Twitter/Facebook/Tumblr/Instagram/etc so much. A couple of times a day is more than enough for any of those. If there is really an emergency, they will call you.
Remove email from your phone. It will force you to engage more in real life.
Don’t give unsolicited advice if it’s really just to make yourself feel better.
Have empathy but don’t pity people.
Don’t spoil your kids. I know you love them and want them to have everything they want but trust me, you are doing them a major disservice in life if you give them everything they want.
Return phone calls.
Eat as little sugar as possible.
Don’t procrastinate. Thinking about not doing something that you know you have to do is usually much harder and taxing than actually doing it.
Have a purpose in life. This should go beyond “I want to make a lot of money” or “I want to be famous.”
Never answer “I’m fine” when someone asks you how you are doing. Be honest. You’re either doing great, terrible or okay. Don’t forget what FINE really stands for (F*cked up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional.)
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.
Make sure you learn from those mistakes…
Try to treat everyone you meet the same way. Don’t treat the CEO better than the intern. Be consistent, be humble.
Be gracious. About a month ago I met with one of the most powerful men in media. I was meeting with him to get advice and he was meeting me to help me out (he had nothing directly to gain from the meeting). I met him in the building he owns (that takes up a city block in midtown Manhattan). He came out to meet me at the elevator and greeted me like I was the most important person in the world. He asked me if I wanted something to drink and instead of asking his assistant to get it, he went and got the water himself. He never took another call or checked his phone during our meeting. He walked me to the elevator after our time together. I left with the best possible impression of this man and his company due to his humility and graciousness.
Experience things and savor time. Live for the moment and not the Facebook update.
Always say please and thank you to anyone doing anything for you.
Sometimes you can either choose to be happy or choose to be right. Always choose to be happy.
Accept that things are exactly the way they are supposed to be at this exact moment. Don’t worry about all of the ‘stuff’ going on in your mind or all the reasons that you think you shouldn’t be happy. Acceptance is always the answer.
Get rid of most of your stuff. Our possessions weigh us down.
Create something new every day.It doesn’t matter if it’s something small or something you think is stupid, just create. Get used to creating.
Recognize that the things you think are bad or terrible often turn out to be great in the long run. Think back in your life and see how this is true.
Shorten the time you spend being p*ssed/angry/rejected/negative/. These feelings are natural but you don’t have to stay stuck in them.
Be okay with feeling good about yourself and being happy. Don’t always wait for the other shoe to drop. Know that you are worthy of happiness.
Don’t plot revenge.
Don’t let the weather affect your mood too much.
Read at least one book per month.
Connect with two new people each week.
Reconnect with one old friend each month.
Don’t text and walk. Definitely don’t text and drive.
Breathe deeply and pay attention to your breathing at least once per day.
Remember this quote from Albert Einstein, “There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle.” Choose the latter.
Don’t get mad when someone doesn’t return your call/email/text right away. Patience is a virtue.
Try to exercise at least five times a week (even if it’s only for 10 minutes at a time.)
Drink water. Lots of it.
Get a mentor. Listen to them. (Your first thought is usually wrong.)
Develop spiritual life based on something. Anything.
Don’t judge other people’s spiritual lives (or lack of one.)
Talk to someone under the age of 7 regularly. Learn from their outlook and zest for life.
Same as above with someone over 70.
Get a good nights sleep every night.
If you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t fall back asleep, get up and do something productive (anything).
Do something nice for at least one person each day. Do it anonymously.
Do your own research. Don’t blindly take advice (especially from list like this
Try not to judge people before you get to know them.
Learn a new word each day. I just learned what ‘pogonip‘ means.
Don’t expect to always feel happy or peaceful. Bad things do happen in life. But learn to deal with life on life’s terms.
Spend time at the park.
Say I love you to at least one person each day. Make sure it’s someone that you actually love.
Be okay with the fact that not everyone is going to like everything you do. Don’t let it hold you back.
Remember that what other people think of you is None of your business.
Try not to multitask. Concentrate on what you’re doing.
Don’t let anything make you too happy or too sad.
Don’t take yourself or anyone else too seriously.
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You don’t have to settle with what you’ve got. The ones who told you that are liars.
Most people are afraid. They want to stop you from feeling the pain they feel because they never had the courage to do what they wanted in life.
Follow your heart and do what feels right for you, because that’s living. Everything else is dying.
If you want to be awesome, you have to care. Care about the people around you and even people you’ve never met. This is especially true if you’re blogging or a public figure. Care about your fans and they will care even more about you.
2. Give Value
We all have something to share. Always focus on what you can do for others. What do you love and what are you good at (or want to become good at)?
3. Be honest
Honesty feels good and is the right thing to do. But why do many choose to lie instead? Most often it’s because it makes their life easier, or does it? It usually might seem like it in the short-term, but in the long-term, honesty always wins.
4. Be honorable
Be honorable and respectable. This means doing the right things, keeping promises and in general, being someone who does the right thing. Look at our world leaders today and do the opposite.
Having integrity for me means being ethical and following a moral code that is both practical and benefits all of humanity. It’s idealistic, but it is certainly worth striving for, isn’t it?
6. Follow your passion
Find your passion and follow it. Never give up. There is always a way to make a living doing what you love. It may not come in the form you think, so be open-minded.
Just a few years ago, I was miserable, but today I am doing what I love. If you want to know what I did to get here, and how you can do the same, check out Live Your Passion, my step-by-step course.
7. Take responsibility
You are responsible for your life. There is no one to blame. If you’re not happy with your life or with your circumstances, you are the only one that can take responsibility and start changing it. What are you waiting for?
8. Be positive
Being just a little bit more positive can mean a lot of things. Reading a good book, checking out positive quotations or even watching a movie that you enjoy. The possibilities are endless. Even though being positive is cliché and kind of irritating, it is still useful.
9. Take action
You can dream and you can wonder, but nothing happens without taking action consistently. You don’t have to be perfect. Learn as much as you need to know the next step and take action!
10. Be radical
Sometimes it’s good to be radical, if it’s you. Radical means different things to different people, so I’ll leave it up to you to interpret it.
11. Focus on your strengths
Stop trying to fix your weaknesses. You can’t be perfect. Focus on your strength and let other people do what you’re bad at.
12. Do less
You can do less and live more. You don’t need more stuff. Release your cravings for materialism. It will lead to less debt, less work and less stress.
13. Be authentic
Whatever you do, be authentic. Be yourself. I’ve always been a bit of an introvert, so this is another one of those points that I’m constantly working on.
14. Enjoy the process
When you’re doing something you love, you will automatically enjoy the process. Goals don’t even matter at this point. Sure, they give you a direction, but you’re loving life and feeling awesome.
15. Be practical
You don’t have to quit your job to do what you love. You can slowly start phasing it out by working on your passion project after you get home from work. Be practical and realistic. Don’t just jump into your passion when you don’t have a plan.
16. Lose arguments
Why do we insist on being right all the time? Try losing arguments. It’s great fun and interrupts patterns in people. Seeing people get confused is a lot of fun.
17. Let someone pass you in line at the supermarket
Everyone’s in a rush to get home, but what if you took a deep breathe and let someone pass you? It’s unexpected and it makes people smile.
18. Quit your job
If you’re ready for it, just quit your job. There’s no need to hang onto something that you don’t need. For the rest of you, stay put.
19. Give away stuff
How much stuff do you have that you haven’t used in the last 12 months? What about giving it all away? I know a lot of people that have their houses full of stuff.
Be aware of where your focus is. Where focus goes, energy flows. If you’re constantly thinking about how you will fail, you will feel bad and maybe even fail. Think about how you will succeed and you might just succeed. If at first you don’t succeed, try again.
21. Tidy up
Keep your apartment or house clean. Not saying that I’m a master of cleanliness or anything, but it sure does feel good to have everything looking good, doesn’t it?
22. Embrace challenges
Most people avoid challenges, or as they like to call them: problems. What would life be without challenges? Incredibly boring. We would never grow – at least not as fast – and everything would be smooth sailing.
23. Live with power
Live with power and certainty. Power goes hand in hand with responsibility. Take action, be confident, be yourself and trust that your intuition will guide you wherever you need to be.
24. Practice courage
We all have our fears. By practicing courage and doing something even though you’re afraid, you grow. New stuff is scary. I know that. You know that. Let’s do it anyway, shall we?
25. Surround yourself with awesome people
The people you choose as friends have a big impact on how you think and act. Do not accept just anyone into your life. Choose your friends wisely.
26. Go with the flow
You know, the universe is constantly giving you hints and trying to pull you in one direction. Are you noticing those hints? From now on, think about the signs you’re getting and follow them.
27. Release expectations
Release all expectations after you’ve set your goal. You never know what the universe might deliver to your doorstep. That’s why you want to have an open-mind, because what if the universe has something better in store for you?
Dare to experiment. Embrace failure, because that is how you learn and how you grow. Being awesome means looking ridiculous and making tons of mistakes. Why? Because it helps you become better and provide even more value.
29. Live within your means
Do you really need a car? Do you need a T.V? We can live a lot cheaper when we realize that we do not need a lot of the stuff we think we need. This allows you to work less and have more free time to do what you want.
30. Slow down
Life is busy. Try to be conscious as much as possible. Breathe and slow down. Enjoy the fact that you’re alive. Be grateful for the little things. Be grateful for the big things.
31. Use money as a tool
Money doesn’t have to enslave you. How much money do you really need? How about having enough to do what you want, when you want to do it? Why would anyone need more than that?
Let yourself dream. During my childhood I was told that things can’t be done, but I have come to realize that just the opposite is true, so dream big and ignore the people that don’t know what they’re talking about.
33. Have a kid
I don’t have a kid, yet. But I’ve heard it is a life changing event, especially if you plan it and stay conscious during the whole journey. It will be an interesting experience once I have a kid or ten of my own.
34. Learn a new language
How many times have you heard or even said “I want to learn a new language“? Stop wishing and start doing. Just 10-15 minutes a day will give you results.
35. Be ridiculous
Don’t be afraid of being ridiculous or silly. In other words, just be yourself. We keep hearing that every market is saturated nowadays. Millions of blogs are born all the time. In this day and age you have to stand out. How do you do that? By being ridiculous. By being yourself.
36. Enjoy nature
How long has it been since you took a walk in nature? What about sitting down in the forest and just listening to the wildlife? Be careful if you have bears in your area though, they can easily sneak up on you .
Having and exercising discipline comes in handy more often than you think. We all have weak moments in our lives when we are just about to give up.
38. Plan your day
Before you get out of bed, visualize how your perfect day would look like. How do you want that day to go? Or if you’re feeling adventurous, don’t plan at all.
Have you been putting off doing what you love because you’re afraid? It’s time to throw out your core excuses and take action. You will see that the fear and excuses fall away once you realize that they really do not hold as much power as you think.
When I finished school at 18, I spent a few months in Spain, and in 2010, I went there again. I lived there for almost a year. It enhanced my growth and I learned a lot. I enjoy slow traveling, just picking one country, seeing if it’s nice and then staying there.
41. Get a pet
Get a cat, dog, duck, parrot, mouse or even a panda. They’re all awesome. I like animals. Unfortunately, I am allergic to them, but I still find ways to hangout with them without dying. There are a lot of shelter pets that need your help!
Do you really buy the clothes you want? Or do you buy the clothes you think people like to see? I’m by no means a fashion expert, but I’ve noticed this pattern in myself many times.
Have you ever traveled with just a backpack? I did this for a month in Thailand. It wasn’t exactly in the form I would have liked, but it was pretty interesting.
Sleep on a couch or share a couch. It’s called couchsurfing. People all around the world are giving strangers a couch to sleep on.
45. Attend a concert
Sure, surround sound sounds awesome, but there’s nothing like attending a concert and hearing music live.
Everyone is talking about how the earth is dying, but are we actually doing anything about it? Are you recycling and making sure everything ends up in the right place?
Can you re-use old bottles, bags or anything in your house instead of throwing it out and buying it again?
48. Social media
If you’re not already involved in social media, get involved. Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn and so on. They are tools to help you connect with the right people. Use them.
Starting a blog doesn’t mean you have to make money. You can start a blog just to have a home on the internet. Share your thoughts and build a community. You might even discover your passion in the process.
50. Talk to a dolphin
I’ve talked to dolphins in my sleep, but never in real life. I just have this feeling. You have to talk to a dolphin at least once in your life. I’m going to do it soon enough, you can quote me on that.
If yoda you have not seen, then see him you must. I’ve been in love with the whole Star Wars thing ever since I saw the first movie as a child. Granted, I do not dress up as a wookie, but I still enjoy the whole series, because somewhere out there, it actually exists.
Stress is killing all of us slowly. Take time out of your day to relax. Meditate, be mindful, walk, hangout with your loved ones or pet. Take a hot bath or a sauna (I love saunas)!
53. Listen to your body
What is your body telling you? Are you working too hard? Not eating enough nutrient-dense foods? By keeping your body happy, you can keep your mind happy, which will allow you to unleash your creativity.
54. Eat fruits
Fruits are easily digested by the human body. They also contain vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, flavonoids and all kinds of nutrients that help keep your body alive. It’s not about surviving, it’s about thriving!
55. Eat vegetables
I don’t like vegetables that much. But I’ve discovered that broccoli soup is quite delicious. I also juice my vegetables with oranges. That way I get my nutrition without it tasting horrible.
56. Drink pure water
The amount of chemicals in our tap water today is frightening. Choose spring water or use a high quality water filtration system to ensure the purest possible drinking water. We are made up out of mostly water, after all.
Even a little bit of sleep deprivation can alter your mood and cognitive abilities. I know I have to get my 8-9 hours of sleep otherwise I’m not going to feel like myself. I also hear that it promotes healthy skin.
You and I both know that exercise rocks, it’s just that we tend not to do it that much. When you exercise, your brain releases endorphins, adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin. These are chemicals that work behind the scenes to make you feel good.
59. Build muscle
Gain muscle and start looking better, feeling healthier, and boosting your confidence. Muscle is underrated. There are huge benefits to having more lean muscle mass. The most common myth preventing most people from lifting some weights – or kettlebells – is that they will suddenly become huge. Not true!
60. Eat light meals
Eat meals that satisfy you and nothing more. Eat slowly and listen to your body. I tend to gorge myself, so this is another one I’m integrating into my life. It’s funny because it’s almost as if it is happening naturally.
61. Drink green smoothies
Smoothies are great nutritional bombs that are full of flavor, but green smoothies are even better. You get energy without crashing. You give your body the nutrients it needs without even tasting the vegetables in the smoothie.
62. Stop alcohol
I don’t like alcohol and I don’t enjoy being around people who are drunk. Having a sip of wine or champagne is cool though. Studies show that moderate consumption is O.K and even beneficial.
63. Throw away processed foods
Your body has trouble with processed foods such as sugar, sodas, candy, pasta and practically anything that comes in a box. Eat whole, natural, fresh foods instead and take control of your health.
64. Ride your bike
Do you even have one? I love riding those really old bikes that are made for old people. They are super comfortable and so simple with one gear.
65. Take the stairs
Are you in love with the elevator? Skip it next time and run up the stairs. Why? Because it’s harder and therefore infinitely more awesome.
66. Grow your own food
The ideal choice would be to grow all of your own food, but for most people that just isn’t possible. You can still grow indoors if you want, but that takes resources and space. Growing your own food will give you access to fresh produce that is extremely high in enzymes and nutrients.
67. Eat sprouts
Sprouts are awesome and extremely easy to make. The only thing you need are dry seeds, water and a bag. There are a lot of resources out there that show you how to sprout seeds, so check them out.
68. Try martial arts
Martial arts aren’t for everyone, but if you can find something you like, it can uplift your spirit and give you an outlet for your creativity, while keeping you fit and looking good.
69. Try yoga
Yoga is an ancient practice that connects the mind, body and spirit. It helps with blood pressure, circulation, balance, body awareness, core strength and mood, just to throw a few benefits out there.
70. Lift weights
Many have the notion that if they lift weights, they’ll wake up the next morning looking like Arnold Schwarzenegger. It’s a nice myth. Weight lifting is beneficial, but can become boring if you don’t throw some variation in there.
The food we eat, air we breathe and water we drink is filled with pollutants, chemicals and toxins. Cleansing and going through a herbal detoxification regimen can help your body eliminate these toxins and improve your health.
Get a massage and give a massage. Getting a massage will help you release tension, relax and be a little bit more of who you really are. I tried shiatsu a few years ago and it was awesome.
Freshly-squeezed fruit and vegetable juices are nature’s multivitamins. They are digested extremely fast and put minimal strain on your body.
Juice fasting and water fasting have both been proven by people all around the world to improve health and wellbeing. If you’re planning a water fast, you might want to contact someone that knows their stuff, it can get rough.
75. Take an omega-3 supplement
The benefits of fish oi have been proven over and over again. You can eat fatty fish and get your omega-3’s that way, but for those that do not like fish or can’t eat enough, supplementation might be an option.
76. Take a natural multivitamin
The nutrition in our food has been slowly declining over the decades, because of the use of fertilizers, herbicides, pesticides and other chemicals. A natural multivitamin will keep your bases covered. And if you want to learn more about how I view health, check out my other site here.
Remind yourself to breathe deeply through your nose and into your abdomen. Breathe out through your mouth, slowly. This relaxes and releases stress. Focus on your breath and notice your body and mind saying goodbye to tension.
Taking time off from your busy schedule to meditate. It enhances your brain power, mood and reduces pain sensitivity. Learning how to meditate is easy, so make time for it. No, not someday. Now. Schedule 10 minutes right now and try it.
79. Release the how
We’re always trying to figure out how something is going to happen. Release the how. Our brains aren’t meant to know how things are going to happen. It causes anxiety, worry and other mental problems.
Almost every city has somewhere where you can volunteer. Go check it out and try it for one day. You might like it.
81. Be open minded
Don’t judge a book by its cover. Be open to everything, because you never know where it may lead. What if you tried an origami class today where you met someone that will help you 13 years from now? You can never know.
Grow as a human being, a spiritual being and a conscious soul. If you aren’t growing, you’re slowly withering away. There is no middle ground. Always push yourself. Live uncomfortably and evolve, but beware of the harsh truths of personal growth.
83. Be grateful
Write down and think about the positive things in your life. Practice gratitude every night before sleep. It may feel weird, but enjoying the little things you are grateful for will have an impact on you.
84. Make connections
One of the most important things in life is making connections. My life has significantly shifted towards making more connections and giving value, from just being someone who does something for money. This has had a huge impact on my life.
Do you constantly want to change they way things are? What if you had done that one thing differently in the past? Stop it. You’re putting yourself in mental hell. Accept what is. Ironically, that is the first step to change.
Forgive yourself and others. It will take a huge load off your back. You don’t have to hold grudges against anyone. You are only causing anguish to yourself.
Nothing happens fast. I learned this the hard way. In the small amount of behind-the-scenes coaching that I’ve done I keep seeing this over and over again. People want to make it online and they want fast results, but the truth is that you have to work hard for 6-12-24 months before anything happens.
We all like to do something. We are made to create. Whether it is writing, painting or singing doesn’t matter. Creating gives birth to serenity. When you’re in the flow of creating in a form you enjoy, you will see what I am talking about. My favorite form is writing at the moment.
89. Say hi
Just saying hi and shooting a smile at people you pass on the street can have a huge impact on their day, and in your own life. Spreading the joy feels good.
What about taking it to the next level and hugging people on the street? Start your own free hugs campaign. That video is awesome.
91. Be aware of your beliefs
Your beliefs control what you see, what you believe and where you’re heading. If you don’t believe that you’re awesome, then you won’t accomplish awesome things.
92. Thank as many people as you can
Go out of your way to thank as many people as you can. If you have a blog, thank your visitors in any way you can. Give them free stuff. Send them personal e-mails. Help them out.
Take chances. Don’t be afraid to trust your intuition. For me, intuition is that feeling I get in my heart. I feel drawn to something and it feels good. It’s not correct 100% of the time (because I misinterpret), but it’s fun following it and seeing what happens.
94. Learn to say no
Saying no is liberating and powerful. You do not have to accept every request that your friends or loved ones make. You control your time. If you’re afraid that your friends will un-like you for not doing stuff, then they aren’t really your friends.
95. Release labels
When we look at someone we automatically put a label on them and often we’re wrong. Think about all those times you analyzed someone and thought you were right. When you met them and talked to them you realized how wrong you were.
Imagine how you would like to be. Confident, charismatic, funny and whatever else you fancy. Now think of how that version of you acts and lives their everyday life. Then imitate them.
97. Be present
There’s no need to dwell on the past or the future. Take your awareness and plant it in the now. Be aware of your body, thoughts and feelings. Just observe them and allow them to be.
98. Embrace Imperfection
We have to be perfect. Never fail. Failure was frowned upon when I was a kid, so I grew up thinking I had to be perfect. Took me a long time to realize that it wasn’t necessarily so. It’s okay to be imperfect. It’s human.
99. Ask for help
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you have trouble, reach out to someone and ask for their assistance. We can’t always do things on our own.
100. Respect others
Show people respect. This is a big one. I wasn’t good at showing others respect just a few years ago. I’m learning though and doing my best.
Trust others. There are a lot of good people out there that will help you. I’m not saying you should trust anyone blindly though. But I think you know what I mean.
102. Release negative people
You don’t have to hang around negative people, you know? They are there to teach you that. Let them go and say good bye.
103. Listen to others
Listen to what people have to say. Don’t you feel appreciated when someone has 100% of their attention on you? Do the same.
104. There is no spoon
You create your reality. Realize that you have the power to create what you want. If you don’t agree then you have a few beliefs to let go of.
The ego has its tasks, but it has taken the population of Earth hostage. You can free yourself by breathing and allowing it to be as it is.
106. Release negativity
There are a lot of good tools to release negative emotions, beliefs and thoughts. Two of my favorites are Emotional Freedom Technique and the Sedona Method.
107. Use NLP
Ever heard of Neuro-Linguistic Programming? It’s a powerful tool that shows you how your mind works. Think of it as the user’s manual for the human brain.
Writing down your thoughts will help you gain clarity. Since I started writing my decision-making has been sharper and more awesome. By journaling you can learn more about yourself and therefore improve your life and at the same time affect those around you in a positive way.
109. Simplify your life
Throw out superfluous goals, things and stuff in general. External purging affects your internal state. Don’t you just feel better when you give or even throw old stuff away? I know I do. You do too, you just can’t admit it, can you? Simplify your life.
110. Have goals
Write down your goals. They don’t have to be incredibly meticulous. Just having them in writing gives them more power. You’ve heard the stories, someone writes down a goal and forgets about it, then they find it 10 years later and you know the story .
Reading teaches you things. Secret things. Did you know that most people don’t read? That means you’ll know many secrets that they don’t, just by reading books. Two of my favorite books are the Power of Now and Way of the Peaceful Warrior.
112. Throw out your T.V
How much time do you spend watching T.V? I haven’t watched television regularly for a very long time. It frees up amazing amounts of time. If you watch 2 hours a day, that’s 730 hours per year, or 4.34 weeks per year. It’s time to kill your T.V.
113. Stop reading the news
How often have you felt happy after reading the news? It’s filled with propaganda, manipulated stories and bombs. Why read it? It doesn’t do you any good.
114. Don’t multitask
I used to be a big multi-tasker, but I realized that it didn’t work for me, and it probably doesn’t for you either. Pick one thing, eliminate distractions, and focus. It’s the only way to unleash your inner genius.
115. Enjoy music
I tend to only listen to music while I do other things. One day I put on music and sat with my eyes closed. It was as if another world had opened up. Everything seemed different.
116. Turn off your phone
I’ve had my phone turned off a lot. I’ve even stopped answering the phone when it rings. I guess that’s one of the reasons why people don’t call me anymore. But on a more serious note, it’s relaxing .
117. Turn off your IM
Did you think I was going to let you have your Instant Messenger on? Shut it down! In fact, I’m going to shut mine off right now. There, it’s done. Try it.
118. Learn your values
What are your true values in life? Do you value integrity? Honesty? What about love? How about money? Which one is #1?
People say they don’t have time, when in reality they’re saying they lack priorities. If you don’t have time to follow your passion, you don’t really care about feeling fulfilled and awesome. Learn how to eliminate and discriminate.
120. Keep it simple
Keep things as simple as necessary, but no simpler.
Remind yourself that you are going to die. This will melt away any obstacles that are preventing you from living your life to the fullest. Go after your dreams and learn to live a passionate life.